dispute-coordinator: disabling in participation (#2637)

Closes #2225.

- [x] tests
- [x] fix todos
- [x] fix duplicates
- [x] make the check part of `potential_spam` 
- [x] fix a bug with votes insertion
- [x] guide changes
- [x] docs

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Co-authored-by: Tsvetomir Dimitrov <[email protected]>